When trauma shows up in your relationship, it doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means your nervous system is doing its best to protect you. Together, we’ll explore how to feel safe with each other again—and learn to reach, repair, and reconnect in deeper ways.
If you’re here, chances are things feel heavier than you expected. Maybe the same arguments keep looping, or maybe silence and distance have started to feel safer than trying to connect. You might be wondering how you got here—or if it’s even possible to get back to each other. The truth is, relationships are where our deepest wounds often come to the surface. Not because your partner is the enemy—but because closeness naturally stirs up what hasn’t yet healed. When we’ve lived through trauma—whether from childhood, past relationships, or even within the current one—our nervous system learns to protect us by pulling away, shutting down, or reacting strongly when we feel threatened or unseen.
That’s not failure. That’s survival. But survival isn’t the same as connection.
In trauma-focused couples therapy, we don’t just focus on fixing behaviors—we go deeper. Together, we look at the emotional patterns and attachment wounds that keep you stuck. We explore the places where it stopped feeling safe to be soft, vulnerable, or open. We hold space for both of you, without blame, shame, or taking sides.
We believe that most conflict in relationships isn’t about control or incompatibility. It’s about self-protection—about two people who deeply want to feel safe, seen, and loved by each other, but don’t know how to get there anymore.
With an attachment-based approach, we’ll explore:
- How your early relationships shaped the way you reach for (or retreat from) connection
- How trauma impacts your ability to trust, soothe, and feel emotionally secure
- How to recognize and disrupt painful cycles of conflict or disconnection
- How to create new patterns of repair, empathy, and intimacy—slowly and safely
This work isn’t easy. But it is possible. You don’t have to keep reliving the past inside the present. You don’t have to choose between protecting yourself and being close to the person you love. There is space for both safety and connection. There is space for your story, your healing, and your relationship to become something more grounded, honest, and resilient.
You've Already Made The First Step.
